Sorry for any confusion regarding the donation link. The issue has been resolved and a new link has been posted.
http://www.youcaring.com/adoption-fundraiser/Bringing-Roman-Home-/45339
Thanks for your continued prayers and support.
Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Tuesday, March 5, 2013
Update
Well, the last several months have been very busy. As you all know, Tiffany was pregnant with our little girl the last time we posted. For those of you who don't know, Madeline Grace Frost was born on 02-13-2013, 4lbs 13 oz, 4 weeks early. We stayed at the hospital for seven days until Tiffany's fever broke and her blood pressure wen back to normal. We came home for two days and then while at our first check up for Madeline, we were told she had RSV (a viral respiratory inspection) and she had to be put on oxygen and IV's for a week. After over two weeks at the hospital, we finally got to come home. So to say the least, we have been busy.
Since our last post, we completed our dossier and got it authenticated in Raleigh. There was a slight problem with Tiffany's employment letter, so one day after I returned, Tiffany headed back to Raleigh with the revised document. The dossier then went over to Ukraine with another family.
Roman was scheduled to come over for hosting around Christmas, but due to some unforeseen trouble in Ukraine, he was not allowed to be hosted; he was crushed.
We tried to focus our attention on the adoption again and continued the waiting game. Yesterday, the adoption agent emailed me with our SDA appointment date. The date is 03-13-2013, the same day my paternity leave ends at work, YIKES! We are having some troubles with the adoption right now that need to be ironed out before I go buy plane tickets. We are still gathering information right now, so I can't say much about the issues (don't want to misinform anyone), but as soon as I know, I will update everyone. Seems like we are not the only family whose adoption is not going smoothly right now, but then, we all knew going into this that the road might get really bumpy and for some, may be a dead end, unfortunately. I am praying that the Lord will continue to guide our paths and I am confident that everything happens for a reason and although I may not understand why things don't always work out, I know God doesn't make mistakes.
On another note, we are still at least $15,000 short in funds and with an SDA appointment in one week, I must admit, I am starting to worry. I have to give our in-country facilitator $9000 upon arrival in Ukraine and I still have to pay for travel expenses and other court costs and such. I was very confident in the beginning that God would provide and I had no worries, even staring down the barrel of a $30,000 adoption cost that we did not have. I was sure that since this was a path I was put on by God, that it would be easy and he would provide everything we needed. Well, God doesn't necessarily work like that. Like I said earlier, I believe in God and I know there is nothing he cannot do. As a human, I am still a worrier. God has never let me down before and has always provided for my family when I was faithful to him and I am hoping that this time will be no different. After all, what's $15,000 to our God that knows no bounds.
For those of you wondering why I say $15,000 and not more, the range we were given for adoption costs was $25,000-$30,000. So, we have $1000 in the adoption fund account + a little over $7500 we have received in donations. I'm figuring $8500 + $15,000, being $23,000, may be enough to get us by. I can live on next to nothing and I don't mind staying in very poor conditions to save a little money. I would fly over with the luggage if they'd let me, kidding, no really, I would if I had to.
To all of you that have prayed for us, contributed your time or money or have helped in any way, we want to say from the bottom of hearts, thank you.
Since our last post, we completed our dossier and got it authenticated in Raleigh. There was a slight problem with Tiffany's employment letter, so one day after I returned, Tiffany headed back to Raleigh with the revised document. The dossier then went over to Ukraine with another family.
Roman was scheduled to come over for hosting around Christmas, but due to some unforeseen trouble in Ukraine, he was not allowed to be hosted; he was crushed.
We tried to focus our attention on the adoption again and continued the waiting game. Yesterday, the adoption agent emailed me with our SDA appointment date. The date is 03-13-2013, the same day my paternity leave ends at work, YIKES! We are having some troubles with the adoption right now that need to be ironed out before I go buy plane tickets. We are still gathering information right now, so I can't say much about the issues (don't want to misinform anyone), but as soon as I know, I will update everyone. Seems like we are not the only family whose adoption is not going smoothly right now, but then, we all knew going into this that the road might get really bumpy and for some, may be a dead end, unfortunately. I am praying that the Lord will continue to guide our paths and I am confident that everything happens for a reason and although I may not understand why things don't always work out, I know God doesn't make mistakes.
On another note, we are still at least $15,000 short in funds and with an SDA appointment in one week, I must admit, I am starting to worry. I have to give our in-country facilitator $9000 upon arrival in Ukraine and I still have to pay for travel expenses and other court costs and such. I was very confident in the beginning that God would provide and I had no worries, even staring down the barrel of a $30,000 adoption cost that we did not have. I was sure that since this was a path I was put on by God, that it would be easy and he would provide everything we needed. Well, God doesn't necessarily work like that. Like I said earlier, I believe in God and I know there is nothing he cannot do. As a human, I am still a worrier. God has never let me down before and has always provided for my family when I was faithful to him and I am hoping that this time will be no different. After all, what's $15,000 to our God that knows no bounds.
For those of you wondering why I say $15,000 and not more, the range we were given for adoption costs was $25,000-$30,000. So, we have $1000 in the adoption fund account + a little over $7500 we have received in donations. I'm figuring $8500 + $15,000, being $23,000, may be enough to get us by. I can live on next to nothing and I don't mind staying in very poor conditions to save a little money. I would fly over with the luggage if they'd let me, kidding, no really, I would if I had to.
To all of you that have prayed for us, contributed your time or money or have helped in any way, we want to say from the bottom of hearts, thank you.
Sunday, November 4, 2012
Coming Home For Christmas
Immigration -- that is where we are now and in a holding pattern at this point. BUT we found out that Roman will be here for Christmas! He has been approved to be here through New Horizons hosting program. Roman will be here from December 18 - January 15 :). Since our plan to have him permanently home at Christmas has been pushed back, words can't describe how excited we are to get to see and spend time with him for the little bit of time we will have at Christmas!
Another great accomplishment! For a couple months now, we have been calling and talking to Roman once a week to keep him updated and just to see how he is doing. We always tell him that we love and miss him before we get off the phone. Last week is the first time that he told us he loved us back!!! That just melted our hearts.
Another great accomplishment! For a couple months now, we have been calling and talking to Roman once a week to keep him updated and just to see how he is doing. We always tell him that we love and miss him before we get off the phone. Last week is the first time that he told us he loved us back!!! That just melted our hearts.
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!
Its been a while... I wanted to post a THANK YOU to everyone who has donated their time, money and efforts to make it possible to bring our son home. It is great to know that there are so many people out there praying and supporting us along the way.
Monday, September 3, 2012
Update
Sorry! It has been a while since we posted. Life has been very busy lately. We had our last home study teleconference with our social worker. We have some paper work to finish and she is going to work on our report. We almost have another item we can mark off of our to do list. Once we have everything to our social worker we can start immigration paperwork.
To prepare for Roman to come home, Kenneth and I have been working very hard to prepare a room. His room is what we used to call the "workout room/storage room" Everything that was previously in that room is now in every other room in the house... Most of it needs to go into a building that we do not have or in our yard sale pile! I guess we will figure that out sooner than later - I hope ;)!
Kenneth went to IKEA and purchased a bed and a night stand. One day after I got off work, we headed to Lowe's to purchase a few things. We ended up finding a rug that goes very nice with the room. I mentioned chalkboard paint to Kenneth and he got pretty excited. Sooo needless to say one wall is painted in chalkboard paint which I have to admit it is pretty awesome. The other walls we just repainted white. We decided we would let Roman decide if he wanted to paint them a different color when he gets home. Thanks to my brother Andrew who helped me paint while Kenneth was helping clean a park in Mooresville.
The next purchase we will have to make is blinds. Man, the blinds currently hanging in the room were there when Kenneth bought this house almost 8 years ago. So they are old and need to be replaced. I am hoping to start with Roman's room and purchase the faux wood blinds.
Kenneth has the photos of the room on his phone, as soon as I get them we will post before and after photos.
To prepare for Roman to come home, Kenneth and I have been working very hard to prepare a room. His room is what we used to call the "workout room/storage room" Everything that was previously in that room is now in every other room in the house... Most of it needs to go into a building that we do not have or in our yard sale pile! I guess we will figure that out sooner than later - I hope ;)!
The next purchase we will have to make is blinds. Man, the blinds currently hanging in the room were there when Kenneth bought this house almost 8 years ago. So they are old and need to be replaced. I am hoping to start with Roman's room and purchase the faux wood blinds.
Kenneth has the photos of the room on his phone, as soon as I get them we will post before and after photos.
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
A Much Better Day
I received an email from the social worker conducting our home study on Monday night! It was much more encouraging!
She has requested that we read a book called The Connected Child by Kayrn Purvis. So I immediately downloaded the book tonight from Books a Million when I got home from work. I read the first chapter so far. She also requested that we take a few online courses. She also asked for our plans for schooling, doctors, therapy, etc. We just found out that a friend of the family has graciously offered her services to tutor Roman!
I am hoping that all though we had to clear a few road blocks our efforts to complete all the tasks that have been given to us will show that we are willing to do what ever it takes to bring Roman, our son, home!
I had a nice long chat with our adoption coordinator tonight as well. She is such a sweet lady. She answered a lot of questions that I had and eased my mind.
Please remember that we are planning a yard sale around September. Please search your garages, attics and bedrooms for items you no longer need that you would be willing to part with :)
Also don't forget our other fundraisers that are to your left in the sidebar.
If you have any other ideas or suggestions for fundraising please comment and let us know. We are open to all suggestions.
~Tiffany
She has requested that we read a book called The Connected Child by Kayrn Purvis. So I immediately downloaded the book tonight from Books a Million when I got home from work. I read the first chapter so far. She also requested that we take a few online courses. She also asked for our plans for schooling, doctors, therapy, etc. We just found out that a friend of the family has graciously offered her services to tutor Roman!
I am hoping that all though we had to clear a few road blocks our efforts to complete all the tasks that have been given to us will show that we are willing to do what ever it takes to bring Roman, our son, home!
I had a nice long chat with our adoption coordinator tonight as well. She is such a sweet lady. She answered a lot of questions that I had and eased my mind.
Please remember that we are planning a yard sale around September. Please search your garages, attics and bedrooms for items you no longer need that you would be willing to part with :)
Also don't forget our other fundraisers that are to your left in the sidebar.
If you have any other ideas or suggestions for fundraising please comment and let us know. We are open to all suggestions.
~Tiffany
Sunday, August 5, 2012
TODAY WAS A LITTLE TOUGH
Today after church we received a call from the adoption coordinator.
Tiffany and I both felt like the home study we had on Friday went very well. We felt like we were prepared for any questions the social worker may have and afterwards we thought it well and we had answered her questions with well researched and thought out answers.
Back to the phone call today; Tiffany was speaking to the coordinator while I drove us home from church. Two things stood out in the conversation. One, Tiffany is not old enough to be on Roman's birth certificate in the Ukraine (the age difference must be 15 years). This little piece of information was devastating to Tiffany and so ensued the tears. We have already been afraid Roman would feel like the baby was Tiffany's child and Roman was mine because of the timing, so this just made Tiffany feel that much more out of the adoption loop. Then we found out we will get a new birth certificate in the US and she will be on that one.
The second thing and admittedly much more damaging for both us of, is that the social worker told the coordinator she didn't think we were old enough to adopt a 15 year old boy. We did not have a good reaction to this. We have struggled with our own fears about diving into parenthood and this was less than reassuring. What we do have to assure of this being the right thing to do is the fact that this a calling from God, for us to bring our son home. Some people I have spoken to are having trouble with that concept. I will try to explain it the best I can. My own personal experience is this; I know I was commanded to go to the Ukraine to get my son and bring him home. The understanding I have to full fill this command is as natural as eating when I am hungry or sleeping when I am tired, it is just one of those things you don't have to be reminded to do, you just do it because you know you have to. Until it happens to you, it is very hard to understand coming from someone else. I have never in my life had a feeling like this. I am so positive that this is God's will that I promise you I will stake everything on it, I have never had this kind of faith in God before. I thought giving the tithe when I was flat broke and didn't get paid for another week was living in faith, but let me tell you, this is a whole new level for me. For those of you who know me, you know I am very methodical, practical and I will not do anything without a great deal of planning, preparation and research.
Now, I just pray and listen to God and try my best to do what he commands.
All we can do now is pray that God will speak to the hearts of the people that make the decisions in this adoption process and hope they listen.
-Ken
Tiffany and I both felt like the home study we had on Friday went very well. We felt like we were prepared for any questions the social worker may have and afterwards we thought it well and we had answered her questions with well researched and thought out answers.
Back to the phone call today; Tiffany was speaking to the coordinator while I drove us home from church. Two things stood out in the conversation. One, Tiffany is not old enough to be on Roman's birth certificate in the Ukraine (the age difference must be 15 years). This little piece of information was devastating to Tiffany and so ensued the tears. We have already been afraid Roman would feel like the baby was Tiffany's child and Roman was mine because of the timing, so this just made Tiffany feel that much more out of the adoption loop. Then we found out we will get a new birth certificate in the US and she will be on that one.
The second thing and admittedly much more damaging for both us of, is that the social worker told the coordinator she didn't think we were old enough to adopt a 15 year old boy. We did not have a good reaction to this. We have struggled with our own fears about diving into parenthood and this was less than reassuring. What we do have to assure of this being the right thing to do is the fact that this a calling from God, for us to bring our son home. Some people I have spoken to are having trouble with that concept. I will try to explain it the best I can. My own personal experience is this; I know I was commanded to go to the Ukraine to get my son and bring him home. The understanding I have to full fill this command is as natural as eating when I am hungry or sleeping when I am tired, it is just one of those things you don't have to be reminded to do, you just do it because you know you have to. Until it happens to you, it is very hard to understand coming from someone else. I have never in my life had a feeling like this. I am so positive that this is God's will that I promise you I will stake everything on it, I have never had this kind of faith in God before. I thought giving the tithe when I was flat broke and didn't get paid for another week was living in faith, but let me tell you, this is a whole new level for me. For those of you who know me, you know I am very methodical, practical and I will not do anything without a great deal of planning, preparation and research.
Now, I just pray and listen to God and try my best to do what he commands.
All we can do now is pray that God will speak to the hearts of the people that make the decisions in this adoption process and hope they listen.
-Ken
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